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Your beliefs are the source of ALL your suffering. Pain felt in the body is real. Suffering is entirely the mind’s creation. It’s. Not. Real. (You make it real by believing in it) Your attachment to your beliefs is precisely where you feel stuck. You are stuck in a prison of your own beliefs. 🔥 So what? Beliefs are just ideas you’ve become a little (a lot) too attached to. Just ideas that one day you stopped questioning. And flipped the switch from idea to belief. And they’ve lived inside of you ever since. “My beliefs” Except they’re still just ideas. All of them. Find the COURAGE to challenge just one of your old beliefs. Just one. ☝️ And you have opened the door just a tiny sliver, to your liberation. Liberation from? The prison of your own mind. It’s bars are titled “I’m just not…” “I’ve never been…” “Other people are…” The story you insist on re telling every single day. Over and over. The one called “the story of me” You can start a new chapter any time you like. Happy Saturday 🌞 ~~~~~ SHIFT: is the mindset method for leaders that delivers a +76% improvement in your wellbeing By simply going after your tired old beliefs that no longer serve you, or those around you. The result? Clarity Confidence Calm I’m working with two leaders in November one to one. Who it’s for: Business owners Founders Directors Execs. Open minds Courageous hearts DM me “SHIFT” to start a confidential and non judgmental conversation 🦁🔥🙏

5 Unexpected Emotional Intelligence Traps Smart Leaders Avoid (To Boost Their Decision-Making) Emotional Intelligence is your communication superpower Neglecting balance can lead to burnout The Cost of High, Unmanaged Emotional Intelligence: - Empathy Trap: Feeling everyone's emotions can be a burden - Perfectionist Paradox: Overthinking leads to decision fatigue - The People Pleaser Trap: "easy to talk to,"=emotional baggage overload - The Misunderstood Mediator: Stuck in resolving other people's conflicts - Decision Fatigue: Managing your own & others' feelings is mentally draining The Untapped Benefits of High EQ: - Conflict Navigation: You can de-escalate situations with ease - Inspiring Leadership: Your enthusiasm motivates and uplifts others - Sharpened Decision-Making: Clear thinking leads to better choices - Stronger Relationships: Genuine connections foster trust and loyalty - Enhanced Self-Awareness: You understand your strengths and weaknesses What you don't realize about high EQ traps: - Trust Your Gut, Act Fast: Less stress, inspire others - Be You, Not Perfect: Less anxiety, honest connections - Boundaries, Not Burdens: Less baggage, more connection - No to People Pleasing: Reduces burnout, stronger relationships - Empower, Don't Fix: More time for you, promotes responsibility 5 ways to lead with EI without burnout 1) 5-Min Gratitude Boost: 3 things you're grateful for daily = Happier you, better relationships! 2) Label Your Feels: Name your emotions = Better communication, less conflict ️ 3) Deep Breaths: Feeling overwhelmed? 5 deep breaths = Reduced stress, calmer environment 4) Unplug & Recharge: Daily screen break = Less stress, better decisions (impacts everyone) 5) Smile at 3 People: Positivity is contagious! Loan someone your strength What else would you add? ♻ Repost to help others lead with EI without burnout 📍 If you found this helpful, follow me for similar content

5 Unexpected Emotional Intelligence Traps Smart Leaders Avoid (To Boost Their Decision-Making) Emotional Intelligence is your communication superpower Neglecting balance can lead to burnout The Cost of High, Unmanaged Emotional Intelligence: - Empathy Trap: Feeling everyone's emotions can be a burden - Perfectionist Paradox: Overthinking leads to decision fatigue - The People Pleaser Trap: "easy to talk to,"=emotional baggage overload - The Misunderstood Mediator: Stuck in resolving other people's conflicts - Decision Fatigue: Managing your own & others' feelings is mentally draining The Untapped Benefits of High EQ: - Conflict Navigation: You can de-escalate situations with ease - Inspiring Leadership: Your enthusiasm motivates and uplifts others - Sharpened Decision-Making: Clear thinking leads to better choices - Stronger Relationships: Genuine connections foster trust and loyalty - Enhanced Self-Awareness: You understand your strengths and weaknesses What you don't realize about high EQ traps: - Trust Your Gut, Act Fast: Less stress, inspire others - Be You, Not Perfect: Less anxiety, honest connections - Boundaries, Not Burdens: Less baggage, more connection - No to People Pleasing: Reduces burnout, stronger relationships - Empower, Don't Fix: More time for you, promotes responsibility 5 ways to lead with EI without burnout 1) 5-Min Gratitude Boost: 3 things you're grateful for daily = Happier you, better relationships! 2) Label Your Feels: Name your emotions = Better communication, less conflict ️ 3) Deep Breaths: Feeling overwhelmed? 5 deep breaths = Reduced stress, calmer environment 4) Unplug & Recharge: Daily screen break = Less stress, better decisions (impacts everyone) 5) Smile at 3 People: Positivity is contagious! Loan someone your strength What else would you add? ♻ Repost to help others lead with EI without burnout and follow me for similar content

Many experts consider emotional intelligence a predictor of success and satisfaction. Author Scott Mautz sees it as just one important component of something more substantial and even more empowering: mental strength. Mental strength is the ability to productively regulate your emotions as well as your thoughts and behaviors, especially in the face of adversity, says Mautz. He believes it is the success and leadership superpower of our times — the next EQ, only bigger. Mautz has studied and trained mentally strong leaders for decades and has written a book on the subject. From his research and experience, Mautz can tell you that mental strength is about what you must have the discipline to say and do, and to not say and do. Mentally strong people never do these seven things, according to Mautz.

The six figure self sabotage trap: 🔥It’s not your fault 🔥Until you become aware 🔥Then it becomes your choice Is this you? Exhausted Frustrated Distracted Unfulfilled Stressed But you’re “successful” You’ve done everything you were supposed to do, You work hard. You make good money. You provide for your family. So why don’t you feel happy? *** Here comes your old friend comparison… “Everyone else *seems* to be doing fine, there must be something wrong with me” Guilt Resentment Anger Shame “Perhaps I just don’t *deserve* to be happy” Guess I’ll just do more of the same… Keep on working harder More success Less fulfilment Exhausted Frustrated Distracted Etc… *** Sound familiar? I can relate, I’ve been there. It doesn’t have to be this way. And the good news is, it only takes a few simple mindset shifts To break the cycle and find Contentment Presence Direction Balance Focus Peace You can change at any time. It’s never too big, and it’s never too late. *** SHIFT: is the four month mindset coaching journey for successful leaders seeking clarity of purpose. If you are: 🎯Open minded 🎯Accountable 🎯Decisive Let’s chat. Book a call with me to find out how we do it. Link is in my profile.

Think You Don’t Measure Up? Here’s Why You Actually Do ---------------------------- That nagging feeling of not being "secure enough," despite evidence to the contrary—that’s impostor syndrome, and I’ve experienced it more times than I care to admit. For me, it usually shows up in high-stakes negotiations, in meetings where I’m navigating loud stakeholders with conflicting priorities, or when I’m presenting to a difficult stakeholder. In those moments, I catch myself thinking, “Am I really the right person to handle this?” Recently, I attended a Harassment Free Workplace panel discussion where a VP (of a Fortune 500 company) shared how even he struggled with impostor syndrome. It was a powerful reminder that this syndrome doesn’t discriminate—it affects people at all levels, even those in leadership. Feeling like an impostor doesn’t make you one. Over time, I’ve found ways to manage these feelings. Here’s what has worked for me: 1) Lean into preparation: Confidence grows with preparation. Before big negotiations or presentations, I make sure I’m as prepared as possible—anticipating questions, knowing my data, and considering potential outcomes. This helps shift my focus from doubt to action, reminding me that I’m ready to handle whatever comes my way. 2) Seek out honest feedback: I’ve learned to lean on trusted colleagues and mentors for feedback. It’s not always comfortable, but it gives you perspective. Often, they see your strengths and contributions more clearly than you do yourself. One piece of advice that stuck with me: “Don’t let your inner critic speak louder than the people who value your work.” 3) Shift from perfection to growth: This was a game-changer for me. Instead of trying to be perfect in every situation (which, let’s face it, is impossible), I focus on growth. In high-stakes meetings or difficult presentations, I remind myself that it’s okay not to have all the answers right away. What matters is showing up prepared, listening, and being open to learning. It’s about progress, not perfection. 4) Separate feelings from facts: When impostor syndrome hits, emotions can overshadow reality. I’ve trained myself to pause and ask: “What’s the evidence that I’m not capable?” Nine times out of ten, it’s just a feeling, not a fact. By focusing on data—like the successful negotiations I’ve led or the problems I’ve solved—it becomes easier to push past the doubt. Impostor syndrome might never fully disappear, but learning to manage it can make all the difference. If you’re struggling with it, know that you’re not alone. As leaders and peers, we can help those around us by normalizing conversations about self-doubt, providing constructive feedback, and offering reassurance when needed. Creating an environment where people feel safe to talk about these challenges helps everyone perform better—and grow stronger.

How do you quickly recognize a manipulative person? ✍🏻 They appears to be “too much caring “. If you are getting too much of attention from a stranger then take a pause often and evaluate. ✍🏻 A standard technique they apply is : whenever you ask them anything which you find suspicious they will start blaming you. Blame Game is a great tool they use to divert questioning. ✍🏻 To gain brownie points they will slowly instigate you against your closed ones . You start suspecting your closed ones. ✍🏻 Most of the manipulators are good communicators. Not the vice versa always though. They know how to extract your thoughts without revealing anything about others. ✍🏻 Most of the manipulators tell emotional stories which are often lie or fictional. You start empathizing and then you fall into trap. When someone tells you such stories from beginning then take a pause. ✍🏻 They will again and again say you “how close they are to you” even though you just met them few days ago or have interacted few times before . If you feel that superimposing vibe wait for a while. ✍🏻 Most of the manipulators show their real colors only after a while and soon they will ask you for big. - mindset

Don't get caught up in the moment, where reactions occur faster than thinking (she realized just 𝙖𝙛𝙩𝙚𝙧 the nick of time). Relationships last, egos are usually fleeting. Relationships 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 and others, egos 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗯𝗲 𝗳𝗲𝗱. Now, some ego is necessary, to be sure. To that thought, let's use 𝘣𝘪𝘨 vs, 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨 egos. A 𝗯𝗶𝗴 ego is usually the classic narcissistic chest-thumping; a 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗴 ego (sometimes called a "healthy" ego) shows confidence, assertiveness, and emotional intelligence. Big: If you wield your identity (ego) as a crutch or bludgeon, it will severely limit your success. You'll get ticked off whenever your identity is challenged. Strong: If you use that same ego to be better (and help others be better), you can adapt and keep moving forward. It's like a 𝘴𝘦𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘵 𝘸𝘦𝘢𝘱𝘰𝘯. But don't kid yourself -- most of the "ego" we talk about is 𝗻𝗼𝘁 the good kind. So, in the interest of brevity, here are a few tips to consider if you want to keep that ego dialed into a usable range: 1. Self-deprecation. Give it a shot -- make fun of yourself. You aren't the center of the universe. 2. Get 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭 feedback. Insist on it -- and not from the same ego-feeders that praise every move you make. 3. Learn to listen... to 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 listen. If you think you're already good at it, get 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳. 𝘉𝘰𝘯𝘶𝘴 𝘵𝘪𝘱: Get a "World's Okayest Leader" mug. Display proudly. Lots to unpack, but it's a start.

𝐌𝐞𝐧 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐚𝐧 𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐮𝐞. It’s also why you aren’t handling leadership all that well. We all get battered by life and the stress of work, but trying to deal with it by yourself is the issue. It can feel so lonely, a dark place at times. Did you know it’s estimated that 40% of men have never spoken about their mental health issues? That 29% say they are too embarrassed and 20% say they think there’s a negative stigma attached to talking? When you then realise that over 70% of leadership roles are fulfilled by men, that’s a whole lot of industry heads walking round with things that are weighing them down. The most successful leaders, the ones who can embrace and enjoy their success without the need for negative coping mechanisms are the ones who have a support network around them. They have people in their corner who not only guide them but who challenge the way they think, feel and act. People who push them to question the narrative and be better. Who is supporting you? Not just to grow your business but to grow yourself? If this sounds like you, send me a message I may be able to help you and if not I'll point you in the right direction. Action - ➡️ Momentum ➡️ Results Chris - Your Results Coach.