"You have the right to take up space" --- is a verbal statement I make to myself at least once a week. Here are three reasons why it is important to make this statement to yourself. 1. It is a reminder that your thoughts and opinions are valid. My specialty in psychology is health psychology and I believe that Black voices matter in helping to reduce the health disparities that occur in medicine and healthcare. 2. I say it to challenge my automatic process of holding back thoughts because I am worried those thoughts are not fully polished or perfectly organized. Not everything you say will be perfect, put it out there and take feedback accordingly. 3. Taking up space is not selfish but can be a sign of authenticity. I firmly believe having more opportunities to express your authentic self does wonders for one's mental health. This quote is not only limited to work, but it also extends to personal spaces and relationships.
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