Civility Starts at Home and School
The renewed call for civility is long overdue. To sustain it will require a fundamental shift in human behavior...the change in the tone of words we use will follow. Changing human behavior is a long-view activity. And we must start this effort with parents of newborns.
We must demonstrate daily to our kids that righteous anger is rarely a daily occurence. That the baseline is civility.
All the inputs from the various forms of media we consume are training children and adults alike that judgement, taking an immediate stand, being extreme is the only way to be recognized. The only way to have an identity.
Identity is being formed in the frayed strands of tying together 15-30 second reels, tik toks, whatever blips we think people can digest and affirmed by the # of likes, or loves if you are really needy. Or dislikes if you are aiming to be the anti-hero.
Many years ago I taught theatre. When we were working acting technique through improvisational games, often my fourth graders would lean into their competitive selves and argue the outcomes of games. It was strange to me how intense they were about "Improv Olympics."
This was after 9/11, during the Second Gulf War... I would often say how blessed we were to be playing theatre games when guns were being pointed at people in too many places around the world. And, yes, they would roll their eyes.
I was reminded of this disparate, fractured experience this past weekend. The call for civility seems so counter-cultural right now.
And, as such, it is a call to action. A call to action in our homes, first. Our schools, second.
The work that must be done in our homes and schools to enculturate our students, and adults, to the norms of civility is immense. We must reintroduce intentionality to what, when, and how we consume media and in how we communicate.
Teaching media literacy from neutrality should be integrated through all curriculum. Creativity must be a core experience so children learn to trust their inner voice.
And, we must elevate our understanding of how one individual can disrupt. And that disruption can be constructive. Disruption can be civil. How would I like us to disrupt? Each of these are deep commitments that do not take years to implement...and the resistance is not as long as we might fear.
- Remove handheld devices. (*Especially w/ our kids under 13 yrs old)
- Detox from social media (*Again, especially under 13 yrs old)
- Prioritize excessive, unstructured, imaginative play.
- Introduce service learning early so our kids engage with disadvantaged populations.
- Increase face-to-face problem solving as a foundation of all ed. tech.
- Challenge students with big ideas seemingly beyond their age of understanding. Because they're not.
Civility. It doesn't start with words. It starts with behaviors. And it starts at home. The words will follow.
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