A school administrator called Megan’s Foundation this week & said a judge recommended she call us to present a Healthy Relationship program for their students! Here’s the conversation: Administrator: “We are having a problem with our middle school girls sending nude pictures of themselves to their boyfriends.” I said “That’s so disturbing. Let me try to understand; The girls are just, out of the blue, initiating taking & sending these photos?” Administrator: “No, their boyfriends are convincing & manipulating them to do it.” So my question is this: Why did the administrator say they were having a problem with the GIRLS!!??? Because victim blaming starts early. And the blaming & shaming lasts a lifetime. That’s the WHY MMF exists! To give grants to schools so they can eliminate the shame, blame, & victimization through educating boys & girls on healthy & unhealthy behaviors. To start early BEFORE the harm occurs. Megansfoundation.org #victimblaming #revictimization #healthyrelationships #domesticviolenceprevention #relationshipviolenceprevention #middleschool #highereducationleadership #safespaces #entitlement #coercivecontrol #highereducation
susann montgomery-clark, CAP, FCEP Thank you for pointing out the obvious...young girls don't throw away their self-esteem and self-respect without cause. If we are ever going to truly help these young women, we have got to change the narrative of it being "her fault."
Thank you susann montgomery-clark, CAP, FCEP the work you do is so important we should all be using this healthy relationship programming so we can make a change. 💜💜💜🙏 #canada
Great call out! Blame the perpetrator not the victim.
You’re exactly right! Thank you for sharing. Boys/men are seldom held accountable. I think couples should have to pass a test to have children. Education. Something.
Keep up the great work and thank you for sharing this
Co-founder & Board President at Megan Montgomery Foundation, preventing domestic violence
8moP.S. a one hour presentation will not change the systemic issue of disrespect. We ask the schools and colleges that we fund to host year-round healthy relationshipprogramming on a consistent and continuous basis for more than one year and use evidence based programs that are available across the country . a culture cannot be changed overnight.