Bridging the Gender Divide: Can We All Have It All?

Author: Ram S. Ramanathan MCC

Co-Author: Yamini Kandpal

Gender equality remains a pressing issue, despite significant strides. The concept of "having it all" has sparked intense debate, particularly for women. Mary Ann Slaughter's article, "Why Women Can't Have it All," ignited a firestorm of discussion, with both fervent agreement and vehement opposition. However, a closer look reveals a more nuanced truth about gender equality.

Gender Equality and Redefining "Having It All"

Slaughter's title, while provocative, can be misunderstood. Perhaps she wasn't suggesting women can't achieve anything, but rather highlighting the challenges they face in achieving a well-rounded life. Similarly, Sheryl Sandberg's "Lean In" explores the confidence gap that might hold women back.

The Challenge: Reframing Success

The core issue lies not in gender, but in our definition of "having it all." The truth is, no one, regardless of gender, can have everything. Our pursuit of power and wealth can come at a cost, often leading men to neglect their emotional and spiritual well-being. Similarly, women might prioritize career goals at the expense of personal fulfillment.

The Power of Balance: Feminine and Masculine Traits

My experience coaching individuals from diverse backgrounds highlights the potential benefits of embracing both masculine and feminine traits. Here's how these qualities can contribute to success:

• Emotional Intelligence: Women tend to be more comfortable expressing and exploring emotions, fostering stronger relationships – the cornerstone of success in both work and life.
• Intuition: Women often possess a strong intuition, allowing them to consider possibilities beyond immediate solutions. This holistic approach leads to more balanced decision-making.
• Long-Term Vision: Women might naturally gravitate towards long-term perspectives, balancing self-interest with a broader view.

Beyond Stereotypes: Embracing Your Authentic Self

These are generalizations, of course. In competitive corporate environments, these very strengths might be downplayed. The key? Don't force yourself to conform. Identify your natural strengths, be they traditionally masculine or feminine, and leverage them for success.

Lessons from Eastern Philosophy

Eastern traditions offer a unique perspective on gender duality. The Hindu deity Shiva, for example, embodies both masculine and feminine aspects. His passive potential energy is balanced by Shakti, the active creative force. This concept highlights the importance of integrating both masculine and feminine qualities for ultimate power.

Moving Forward: Redefining Success

So, how can we achieve a more balanced and fulfilling life? Here are some key steps:

• Redefine "All": Being a CEO isn't the only measure of success. True success encompasses happiness, fulfillment, and service to others, alongside professional achievement.
• Know Yourself: Examine your strengths, passions, and purpose. Aspirations should be based on your own journey, not someone else's.
• Focus and Prioritize: Multitasking rarely leads to lasting fulfillment. Identify your true goals and channel your efforts towards them.
• Embrace Your Strengths: Don't downplay your natural abilities, whether they align with traditional gender stereotypes or not.
• Celebrate Diversity: Instead of competing based on gender, race, or age, recognize that diversity brings unique strengths to the table.

Taking Action: A Shared Journey

This isn't just a women's issue. Men can play a crucial role in dismantling outdated gender norms. By actively supporting flexible work arrangements, encouraging emotional expression, and celebrating feminine strengths in the workplace, men can foster a more inclusive environment. Ultimately, achieving true gender equality requires a collective effort. By embracing our unique strengths, both men and women can create a world where "having it all" isn't an elusive dream, but a realistic and fulfilling path for everyone.

Building a More Equitable Future

When women and men can leverage their unique strengths and work together in a supportive environment, businesses thrive and communities flourish. Let's start the conversation, challenge outdated norms, and create a world where everyone has the opportunity to live a fulfilling and successful life. 

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(Originally published on Coaching the Spirit - a LinkedIn Newsletter by Ram S. Ramanathan: How Women (and Men too) Can Have It All!)