A festive feast, or the driest of old turkeys? What's the most disastrous work Christmas lunch you've attended?

Do you think thank-you letters are still important and how do you show your gratitude?

Is it too much technology or plain rudeness that means some people don't respond to an RSVP? How do you deal with the silent types?

Would you be happy for people to scrump your unharvested produce? Do you have any qualms about helping yourself on public land?

What are your top tips for novice pubgoers and gripes about the behaviour of regulars?

Is tucking into anything more substantial than a bag of sweets on the bus or train unforgivably inconsiderate or just a fact of life?

In this second part of her exploration of dinner party manners, Felicity Cloake asks what makes the perfect guest and what rules out a repeat invitation?

What do the rules of politeness demand when you're organising a dinner party?

What do parents have a duty to teach their children before letting them loose on the dining public?

Just how do you behave in that awkward moment when the bill arrives at a group meal?

When should you complain in a restaurant, and what about?

What are the real secrets of wooing a waiter?

Does the correct deployment of utensils improve restaurant cred?

Are substitutions and off-piste ordering every customer's right or every restaurant's nightmare?

If you've ordered the fish but the steak looks mighty good, what's to stop you asking for a taste?

Using a mobile phone at the table is always rude. Isn't it?

Felicity Cloake's mini-series on the etiquette of eating starts with public flashing at mealtimes. Strictly infra dig, or should we be all be able to snap away?