There isn't a way to soften the tone when discussing violence against women—no matter the trigger warning. The reality is too painful. As someone who grew up watching my mother endure unbearable physical, mental, and emotional pain at the hands of my father, I know firsthand the scars that remain.
Just recently, a woman’s headless body was found in India, a Miss Switzerland was killed by her husband, and a famous singer received rape threats. These aren’t just random incidents. They’re signs of a much bigger problem that shows us a harsh reality: women’s safety is still just an illusion, one that breaks every time violence occurs, whether out in the open or behind closed doors.
These stories make it clear that fear is a daily reality for many women, with their freedom always under threat. Women are constantly trying to navigate a world where danger is always near—online, at home, or in public.
Yet, even as this violence grows, many men continue to be indifferent, brushing it off with the usual "Not All Men" response. This defensive attitude only stops real reflection and meaningful change. It distracts from the hard truth that many of us, in one way or another, support a culture that allows violence against women to continue.
So, what are we really doing to change this? Are we calling out toxic masculinity and deep-rooted misogyny that drive this violence? Are we, as men, stepping up and holding ourselves and each other accountable? Or are we staying silent, comfortable in our own privilege, ignoring the pain happening around us?
Too many men are staying quiet, indifferent, or even complicit. It’s time to stop defending ourselves and start taking action. As long as we deny there’s a problem, violence against women won’t stop, and safety will stay out of reach.
It frustrates me deeply how these issues are often minimized, dismissed, or downplayed—even by the media, which should be guiding the conversation, not avoiding it. Over the past few weeks, I’ve spoken to and listened to many women. Their stories, alongside recent events and what we saw over the summer, have left me feeling a mix of distress, fear, burning frustration, and anger.
So, here’s what I ask: listen to the women in your life. Think about what you can do to create a safer, more supportive environment around you. We can all do something. We can all make a difference. Because these feelings are real and valid, and something has to change.
ID: A social media post by Puneet Singh Singhal with his profile picture in the upper left corner. The post reads:
"A woman’s headless body is found in India. Miss Switzerland is killed by her husband. A singer receives r*pe threats—all in just a few days.
It feels like no place is safe for women.
And what are we, men, doing? Most of us are busy playing the classic 'Not All Men' on loop!"