#abuse #violence #domesticviolence #saynomire #enoughisenough #bandaidsolutions #darvo - Most of us who have had to navigate every facet of the system & or loss of a child along the way - could share horror stories but often we become quickly aware its in the best interest to only share ‘good stories/support’ to survive’. Yes, we are exposed to Darvo, those who try to flip the script to control the narrative, those who seek to plant or obtain ‘dirt’ on the victim to shift focus away & blame, even with facts/evidence of which they know remains - then comes those - some sadly in the system who seek opportunity/take advantage of others, flood/spam their accts, create fake/duplicate accts intentionally set up to profile victim and or pull them into a controlled setting that sees exposure to further harm by way of coercive control, manipulation, deceit. ‘Step by step’, the power and control manouvres/positions 3rd party connections of an abuser around the victim both online and across workplaces - designed to create chaos/confusion, next comes hazing, subtle bullying, baiting - the psycho-social games used by those who form/choose their side. The motivation: misogyny, misplaced loyalty, power, politics, religion - a mate - many human factors will determine ‘who’s who in your zoo & the games they will play. What looks like support on the surface is sadly not always necessarily so, it’s a well constructed game to suppress, contain and wear the victim down. A triage can quickly become a triad when there is money, contacts and content to extract, copy and lay claim to: ‘what’s yours is mine and what’s mine belongs to me’. Then there is the negative (flip) side of ‘kvetching orders that cleverly draw rings of deceit, brought in like arms of an octopus to block or discreetly attack the victim - any and all genuine support would never test a victim - especially after their disclosures of abuse, or pit them against their abuser or stay hidden - support should always be transparent, ensuring the victim is aware and well informed and obtained through consent, otherwise it is that person/group who has engaged under false pretense with ‘fear of losing their license’ who has something to hide. A well-established system with deep links that has played the same game many times before would/could use health/education/govt connections as a backdrop to manipulate/hide and then age the process’ for their target victim - using time just like the process of wound mgmt: knowing when to apply pressure & when to take it off! No need for accountability coz now you’re ‘healed’ DV, has to stop (BH 28.01.2018). No life should ever be pulled into anothers game of win or lose: Mother Father Wife Husband Brother Sister Friend Mate ……… Child No one life should ever have any of these people form their ‘groups’ of players (bad actors) who believe they then get to choose. #humanrights #violation #justice #protection #care #supportsystems #judgeandjury #facts #evidence #crime
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'We were ignored by five different male officers across three occasions of reporting. By that point we felt completely helpless. I did everything I could to protect my mother, and when my father couldn't find us he murdered her best friend and her best friend's daughter." If you haven't read this yet please do. Last week Ariel Bombara’s father murdered Jennifer and Gretl Petelczyc in Perth and then killed himself. While the act of violence itself was abhorrent and utterly inexplicable the absolute tragedy is that it WAS predictable. Ariel and her mother raised their concerns about him and guns with police. On multiple occasions. Those concerns were ignored. Ariel deserves answers. So does Liesl Petelczyc. We all do. 💔💔💔
