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Forgiveness isn’t always easy for the ADHD brain. Can you relate?! 🙋♀️ Here are a few tips that can help: 1️⃣Acknowledge Your Feelings. 🔸Acknowledging our feelings and validating them, rather than trying to push them away, allows them to start to loosen their hold. Letting the feelings be, feeling them fully, and not pushing them away. 2️⃣Practice Self-Compassion and Acceptance. 🔸Offering yourself compassion and soothing while you feel the feelings are essential. Things like deep breathing, exercise, hot or cold showers, journaling, and connecting with a friend are all proven strategies for soothing intense emotion, allowing you to start the process of forgiveness. 3️⃣Reframe Your Thoughts About the Person Who Hurt You. 🔸Thinking about the pain and suffering of the person that hurt you, takes them out of the position of power by allowing you to see their pain. 4️⃣Reframe Your Thinking About the Situation. 🔸Take some time to consider the situation from the other person’s perspective, knowing that we all make mistakes and people may hurt us unintentionally. Do struggle with forgiveness?

Hark! Fellow travelers on life's unpredictable path, where fevers rage and coughs wrack our weary frames! Doth illness steal thy strength, leaving thee feeling a mere shadow of thy former self? Fear not, for Vicky F Q, a valiant warrior currently beset by illness, and Vicki La B, her trusted warrior companion, shall guide thee through the trials of illness and maintaining a positive spirit! Within this video, prepare to explore: - The art of self-care when the body rebels, from nourishing broths to the simple comfort of a "Croissant Under a Duvet" (a feeling all too familiar to Vicky F Q at present!). - Maintaining a cheerful outlook amidst the sniffles and sneezes, for a positive mind can be a potent weapon in the battle against illness. - Strategies for staying afloat when the world seems to spin, and the path to recovery appears long and arduous. So come one, so come all, and join the conversation! Laugh, learn, and discover that you are not alone in this battle. With empathy, humor, and practical advice, Vicky and Vicki can help you weather the storm of illness and emerge feeling that "Croissant Under a Duvet" once more, ADHD style! Click the link and embark on a journey of self-care and positive thinking! https://lnkd.in/eA8Chrpx P.S. Forsake not the path to subscribe, for further ADHD adventures await with these dynamic duo!

So someone asked me today how I manage my ADHD symptoms... Well, let me be real with you. It's been a freakin' journey, my friends. I used to be all over the place - mind racing, couldn't focus for toffee, zero motivation and drive. Just your typical ADHD shitshow. But I got sick of living that way. Sick of constantly feeling scattered and unproductive. Time for some lifestyle changes! First up - diet. I cut out the majority of the processed crap and went keto. Yeah, I'm that guy now ordering weird stuff at restaurants and living off avocados. But holy hell, it's worked wonders for my energy, focus and mental clarity. The brain fog has lifted. I also jumped on the creatine train. That stuff is like a little helper elf constantly whisking my mind back when it starts to wander. Lifting weights and hitting the gym daily has been huge too. Everyone says exercise helps ADHD and they weren't kidding. Those endorphins are like high-octane brain fuel. I also started taking the following supplements as I’ve chosen not to take ADHD medication: 💊 Lions mane 💊 EPA fish oil 💊 Tyrosine 💊 Rhodiola 💊 Ashwagandha, & Pre-workout (game changer for focus) as its full of caffeine which replaced coffee as cofee wasn't doing anything for me. But you know what the real game-changer has been? Moving to this little jungle paradise inThailand! The warm climate, fresh air, and chill lifestyle out here has melted away so much of my restlessness and agitation. Hard to be jittery when you're chillin' in 30°C temps all day. Don't get me wrong, I still have my ADHD moments. But overall, I'm sharper and more zen than I've ever been. It's been amazing to take control of my health and wellbeing rather than being a victim of ADHD. So there you have it - my little ADHD-conquering cocktail of keto, creatine, lifting, supplements and getting my ass to the tropics! What's your secret for feeling more focused and energized? Share it in the comments! And if this made any sense at all, give it a share! #adhd #selfcare #wellbeing #mentalhealth

In your life, there are days that will come that will change everything for you. Sometimes these days are negative, leaving scars that will never leave. Some of these days are positive, they bring the positives, they give something back. Yesterday was another of those times. A day, unremarkable to many, but a day that for us will be everlasting in its effect. The journey began over a decade ago. The path today has often been a dark one, choked with the brambles of denial, gaslighting, refusals of help. The surface of this path is laid with thousands of words, both spoken and written. Pleas for help, desperation colouring every letter. A few bright spots in places by those who offered so much support, but many gaping holes and uneven steps with failures not of our own making. The motar holding this path together is made of tears and trauma. The foundation was laid with only wanting the best for my family, the love and care of people who without their unwaving support, guidance and empathy, the path would have given way completely. Yesterday my eldest was officially confirmed as Autistic (in addition to their ADHD diagnosis which was ratified last month). Whilst I may share some things quite openly, much of our private lives as a family are kept out of the public eye, but those who know what we have been through and experienced along this journey will know the absolute horror, trauma and failures we have gone through to get to this day. One of the fundamental reasons I am so stalwart in doing what I do, speaking out about the experiences of SEND families, the problems within education, the lack of funding, the lack of support, sharing my own experiences as a neurodivergent person is because I am not alone in these experiences. I will not put a toxic positivity spin on this. It is not a case of 'it was worth it in the end'. Whilst we finally have the validation of what I have known and fought for for years, that process has taken more than it has given. That is so fundamentally wrong. I will never forget and never forgive what it took to get to this day. I should not have had to become who I am today, forged in fire to become steel. But I am what I am, an expert in my own experiences as a neurodivergent person, with a depth of knowledge that is of a standard to match professional qualifications, lacking only a piece of paper to confirm that. That does not mean that I am any less qualified. I was reminded of that yesterday, and oh how has it rekindled the fire within me again. I make this promise, to all of you on this journey. I will never stop fighting for change where I can. I will never be silenced, I will uphold you all, I will do whatever I can to be a bright spot in your path. I will make whatever changes are in my power to do so, shake and shatter the barriers that prevent you from getting that help and support. Those changes may be small, they make take time, but I will not stop. Ever. #autism #autistic #adhd #neurodivergent

I help people who feel stuck. In absolutely anything. If you can't figure out the relationship and get angry again and again, if you can't get pregnant for years even though your body is okay, if you can't get a house, if you don't have enough energy, focus, motivation or can't let go of addiction or anxiety. If you or your kid gets sick over and over again or have ADHD/ autism. It all starts within and it all can change. You were born to live beautiful and prosperous life. Everything that is stopping you is the inner block your subconscious just holds to for some reason. In just one session we discover and heal that reason so you get what you want. Of course I'm not saying you'll get pregnant after one session with me after 15 years of trying. But we will find an inner block and we will remove it and we meet again if needed to see what else is blocking you. I not only work with your mind. I also work with your physical body (remotely, through deep relaxation), your emotions, epigenetics and energy. Truly beautiful process that gives you results. I had people reaching their goals in just one session - kids stopped tantrums after 10 years of having them non stop, kids and adults releasing physical pain and panic attacks, people feeling more energized and motivated. With few sessions done women getting pregnant, people releasing anxiety, building self esteem, finding better jobs, improving relationships etc. Do you crave the change and want to feel better? Want to feel happy and free in your life?Message me today for a free consultation ❤️

This is honestly the worst post to write - because I should not be giving tips on how to cope without ADHD meds if they are part of your treatment plan - because of shortages. But here we are. If you are struggling at the moment - I am so sorry. In no world is this acceptable. You’re probably already well schooled on how to cope - bc it seems this isn’t the first time this has happened, so just a few reminders. • Leave your phone in another room over night and don’t look at it first thing. ‘Fake dopamine’ means you’ll have a sudden high followed by a crash before work. • Rather, drink a glass of water and do some form of movement as you wake up for a more balanced release. • Hate to say it but coffee is your friend. Have one before work and then one around 2 when you’re in a slump. • PLEASE keep water by your desk, have reminders and point of performance spots to remind yourself to hydrate. • Not everyone has this privledge but if you do, try work remotely or in an empty room. Or just with one other person around. • If you can prioritise short walks throughout the day in breaks. It’s one of the best mood and brain boosters. • If you find yourself snacking more than usual or looking for dopamine - be kind to yourself. If it helps you be okay, it’s okay. • Listen to music you love as much as possible. • Eat protein. Get enough magenium, zinc and iron. • Do exercise you love. • Everyday, write down you MIT (most important thing) - even if things go South this is the one thing to focus on. • If you are prone to afternoon slumps - do POW. Eat protein (eg. Protein bar), go outside and take a deep inhales of oxygen, go back inside and drink a glass of water. Energy booster! • If the kids have to be in front of the tv more, or you can’t get away from your phone, IT’S OKAY. • Dont watch the news • Get someone to phone the pharmacy daily • Get people who understand to help where they can • Stay away from people you know are a-holes 😂 • Do as much self care as you can fit it. And don’t feel guilty. Hope there’s atleast one that speaks to you. Just after sick-note week too. My goodness.

Inner Child Wounds - and how they continue to affect us as adults Traumatic and destabilising events that happen to us in our early years, have the power to pull our strings throughout the rest of our lives. While we may be able to look back on them with adult eyes, the damage that was done to the child endures in the subconscious. This is because childhood and adolescence is the time when our brain is making the map of the world and our place (and worth) within it for ease of navigation through life. Here are some ways that childhood wounding can continue to affect you now. Shame The wound of shame can lead to a lifelong fear of judgement, low self-esteem, chronic guilt, and difficulty forming healthy relationships. Adults may struggle with perfectionism, fear of failure, and an inability to be vulnerable, often leading to anxiety, depression, or people-pleasing behaviors. Abandonment The wound of abandonment can cause fear of rejection and a difficulty in trusting others that can even lead to us pushing others away so as not to be rejected ourselves. It can lead to people pleasing and the need to seek validation to feel 'safe', causing unhealthy co-dependent relationships or relationship avoidance completely. Guilt The wound of guilt can make us feel overly responsible for other people's feelings and can cause poor boundary setting and maintenance. Guilt can lead us to down-prioritise our own needs. Neglect Emotional or physical neglect can create a sense of unworthiness or invisibility, making it difficult for the individual to recognize their needs or seek help in adulthood. The neglect wound can also draw us towards others who might continue to not see us, as that feels comfortable and familiar. Betrayal The wound of betrayal can lead to difficulties in developing trust in relationships, causing neediness for external validation and even difficulty in trusting your own self. All of these wounds can have long-lasting impacts that can manifest in maladaptive coping mechanisms like substance abuse or other addictive behaviours, emotional withdrawal or workaholism, highlighting the importance of healing through therapy and self-compassion.

Definition of Chaos: A state of utter confusion or disorder; a total lack of organization or order. Are we chaotic? Or has the world just created structures, systems, and limitations that don't enable everyone to feel as though they belong, especially those of us who are wired differently? 🔸 Keep moving forward… It's easy to get stuck with our heads living in the past when realising that ADHD is the answer you have been searching for your whole life as to why you struggled in life Not to mention, an ADHD brain loves to entertain itself in a good old negative story, which is why it will often add to the fire and bring up a led us to experiencing feelings of blame and resentment towards the world around us! 🔸 Lots of… If I had known, maybe I wouldn't have gotten divorced or impulsively married. Maybe I wouldn't have had such unhealthy addictions and wasted so many years in jobs that made me unhappy. I sabotaged important connections due to being overly sensitive or having extreme anger outbursts. Or maybe I would have been more successful. I choose to do the work to let go of those old stories... 🔸 Why? Because what good can come from shoulda, woulda, couldas and spending our days living in blame, shame, and if-onlys? Our existence on this earth is sacred, our time is precious, and our energy is special and worth protecting. In my opinion, staying stuck in the grief cycle of an ADHD diagnosis isn't going to change anything and is just distracting us from the opportunity to go on the biggest and most exciting personal transformation of our lives. And while it may sound a little hippy-dippy to some, I am a true believer in everything that happens for us, not to us. That yes, life is hard, even harder with ADHD, and even harder when diagnosed late and untreated. But that doesn't mean we are bound by this story of missed opportunities, broken-down relationships, perceived failures, and mistakes. We can decide if we choose to sit back and continue to let the external world dictate our worth, or we can choose to use this answer, let go of who we thought we were, who we thought we had to be in order to be accepted and loved, and start to move through this world with more intention, more authenticity, and more meaning. We cannot change how our story started, but from here on, we have the choice to take back that pen and rewrite the best story we possibly can! Let's Get Untangled & show the world what we are made of!! Work with me... Workplace workshops, talks and ADHD Coaching https://lnkd.in/e3dUP3Xc ADHD One - One Coaching ( last 3 spaces for my next 12 week packages starting in March) https://lnkd.in/epcXEnUE NEW PODCAST OUT TODAY https://lnkd.in/e3mMQ_S5

🚨 Stress is not just a feeling—it’s a serious issue. 🚨 When you have ADHD, daily stress can build up fast. Without taking time to create calm, stress can turn into chronic anxiety, depression, impaired cognitive function, health problems (such as high blood pressure, weakened immune system, and increased risk of cardiovascular disease), and even burnout. I used to thrive from the buzz of stress, and don’t get me wrong, a little bit of stress is normal and can be good for us, but it can all too easily go too far. Chronic stress and burnout are serious, and we need to start putting ourselves first in our lives and businesses. That’s why I created 5 Effective Ways to Create Calm for ADHD. These are real, actionable techniques designed to help you manage stress before it takes over, or to begin to gently guide you back from burnout. You deserve calm - and this guide can help you get there. 💡 Get your FREE guide today: https://bit.ly/calmadhd Your future self will thank you.