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𝐔𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐂𝐚𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥 𝐂𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 🚀 So, picture this: You're just chilling with a friend, having one of those random catch-up sessions over dinner 🍽️, and boom! 💥 Before you know it, you're knee-deep in a deep, meaningful conversation that feels like something straight out of a coaching session. 🌱 That's exactly what happened to me recently, and it got me thinking about how powerful casual conversations can be. 💭 As a coach, I've realized that coaching isn't just a job—it's a way of life. 💼 It's about being present, asking the right questions, and lending a supportive ear to help people tap into their inner potential. 👂 During this impromptu chat with my friend, I noticed myself slipping into coach mode without even realizing it. 🔄 Instead of dishing out advice, I found myself asking thought-provoking questions and really listening to what she had to say. 🔍 What happened next was pretty amazing. 💫 Through our conversation, my friend had a breakthrough moment, gaining clarity on a challenge with a sh** manager and discovering new perspectives she hadn't considered before. 🌈 It was like watching someone unlock their own superpowers right in front of me. 👀 This whole experience got me thinking about the concept of "accidental coaching." 💡 It's proof that coaching isn't confined to formal sessions—it can happen anywhere, anytime, in the most unexpected moments. 🔄 So, here's my takeaway: 📝 👊 𝐋𝐞𝐭'𝐬 𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐨𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐧𝐢𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐜𝐜𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠. 🤝 🗨️ 𝐋𝐞𝐭'𝐬 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐡𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐤𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐬 𝐚𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐬, 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐫𝐬, 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬, 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐚 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧 𝐦𝐢𝐠𝐡𝐭 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞'𝐬 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞. 🔄 At the end of the day, being a coach isn't just about what we do—it's about who we are and how we connect with others. 💖 Let's keep making a difference, one conversation at a time. 🌟 When have you had the last time such a conversation and what did you take away? 😀 Let me know in the comments! ✍ Lars 😎 #CareerChange #DeepListening #Networking --------------------------------------------------- Hi You, 👨🔧 I am Lars and I help engineers & tech professionals to feel more in control of their results, become a change maker and beat their imposter so they have more impact, feel more in charge and get promoted faster! 🤝 Have a look at my FREE BEAT THE IMPOSTER COURSE 👊 https://lnkd.in/dZE33Q6b

Do you think you have it all figured out? Do you think that because you have been doing your job for some time you know the best way to do it? You are not doing the best for the job, you are doing YOUR best for the job. You are doing your job the best you can from your perspective, based on your lived experience up to now. Thats not the same as everyone else. Because everyone else has a different perspective based on their personal lived experiences. Nobody else would be doing your job the same as you. They might be doing it ‘better’ Not everyone thinks like you. Working with a coach helps you see a different perspective, not the coaches, a different way you might approach tasks with your perspectives. If you are interested in personal development reach out to explore what working with a coach can do for you. If you are not interested in developing yourself, watch out because the future is coming to get you!

I always look forward to the weekend. Can you guess why? It’s the time of the week when my clients and I engage in one of the most important aspects of our accountability coaching relationship - progress tracking! Every weekend, we review the progress made during the week to ensure that my clients are on the right track and making consistent strides toward their goals. This is what we usually do: > Revisit the goals set at the start of our coaching relationship > Identify the milestones for the month and the week > Compare progress for the week against set milestones > Address challenges faced and brainstorm solutions > Discuss milestones for the upcoming week and strategize accordingly If you set goals for yourself, I highly recommend adopting this system. Setting goals and breaking them into smaller chunks is just the beginning. Progress tracking is where the meat lies. When you track your progress, you can easily readjust, reassess or restrategize if need be. It's Friday—a perfect day to track your progress for the week. Go ahead and give it a try! P.S.: Happy weekend! My week was very productive. How did yours go? —------------------------------------------------------ First time seeing my post? Holla, I’m Adetola! If staying on track with your goals feels like a constant struggle, I can help. As an Accountability Coach, I’ll guide you from “I want to do XYZ” to “Yay! I have done XYZ!” Click the link in my profile to book a discovery call, and let’s get started.

Am not sure if I should post this, pretty #McBusted after yesterday. It'll probably embarrass Anna Rose but am sure she is used to my antics. What am I going on about - well, have just finished a coaching series with Anna. These are several sessions, spread over a few months, but we've had more sessions, as I missed a couple (had good reason - honest 😊) I have given a recommendation, but thought I'd post it here as well. Before I do so, I should say, who needs work coaching? Well, I never thought me. Ever. Am not sure why not. Blokeishness. Embarrassment. Am not sure. But a little while back, I recall chatting to Chris Bending in a 1:1 and saying some mad stuff. Chris says, "look for someone to chat to. It will help". "Nah", I said, "no one will get it and I don't just want to chat to anyone...." and then up pops Anna, who I believe Chris already knew from some SOLACE thing or the other. So, what's all the fuss? I wholeheartedly recommend Anna as a work coach. Her expertise and approach have had a significant impact on my professional growth. Why? Easy to Speak To: Anna is approachable and empathetic. She creates a comfortable environment where I felt very free to express my thoughts and concerns. Knowledgeable: Anna’s depth of knowledge in various areas, including time management, leadership, and personal development, is impressive. But, and this is THE thing, she's a planner too, so can wrap all of this 'good stuff' around running a LPA. Her insights have been invaluable. Firm Where Required: Anna strikes a balance between being supportive and assertive. When necessary, she provides constructive feedback and encourages accountability. Reflective Outcomes: Thanks to Anna’s guidance, I’ve become more reflective. I now take time to analyse my actions, learn from mistakes, and make informed decisions. Time Management: Anna’s strategies have helped me protect my time better. I prioritise tasks effectively and avoid unnecessary distractions. I don't just jump in. I'll think about when I can do tasks, what woks for me, and will set out timelines. People have noticed this difference. Understanding Flaws: Anna encourages self-awareness. I’ve learned to recognise my strengths and weaknesses, leading to personal and professional growth. Delegation Skills: Anna’s coaching has empowered me to delegate tasks efficiently. I trust my team more and distribute responsibilities effectively. Anna isn't just a coach; she’s a mentor who genuinely cares about her clients’ success. I highly recommend her to anyone seeking professional development and growth. As I have said, this is all delivered with specialist LPA and LGov insights. She knows your pressures (and has often been there before you) so can help get to the bottom of things. I found myself laughing and joking, but also talking really very seriously. If you are fortunate enough to get onto a coaching series with Anna, trust me, it will be very rewarding!

🌟𝐀𝐧 𝐈𝐧𝐬𝐩𝐢𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐄𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐒𝐚𝐢𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐀. 𝐊𝐡𝐚𝐧: 𝐇𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐌𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐜 🚀 It was an absolute honor to personally meet Saiful A. Khan, a distinguished figure in the healthcare industry, representing the vibrant Asian community in the heart of the world—New York. With over two decades of invaluable experience, he stands not only as a leader and motivator but also as an outstanding sales professional. He graciously shared his wisdom, offering insights that resonate not just in the professional realm but also in the tapestry of life itself. Here are some profound lessons we gathered during our enlightening interaction: 💡 𝐊𝐞𝐲 𝐓𝐚𝐤𝐞𝐚𝐰𝐚𝐲𝐬: 𝐒𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐖𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐒𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐤: A genuine smile can be felt even if it's not seen. Always remember the impact of a warm smile during conversations. 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 + 𝐏𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧 = 𝐍𝐨 𝐌𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤: Love what you do, and you won't work a day in your life. Passion turns jobs into epic adventures. 𝐏𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: It's not about a hundred calls. It's about helping a hundred people today. Quality beats quantity, my friends. 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐘𝐨𝐮𝐫 '𝐖𝐡𝐲': Dig deep and find your 'Why.' Whether it's a beach vacay or your pup, let your 'Why' fuel your hustle. 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐑𝐞𝐚𝐩 𝐆𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬: Approach every task with good intentions; positive actions have a way of bringing favorable outcomes, irrespective of personal beliefs. 𝐒𝐚𝐥𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐬 𝐔𝐧𝐢𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐚𝐥: We are all salespersons in various aspects of life. Even convincing your kid to eat broccoli is a sales pitch! 𝐀𝐜𝐭 𝐀𝐬 𝐈𝐟: Envision yourself in your dream position and start acting as if you are already there. Your mindset shapes your reality. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐏𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫 𝐨𝐟 𝐋𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠: In this industry, attentive listening is a paramount skill. Understand the unspoken nuances and truly hear what others are saying. 𝐋𝐨𝐲𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐲 𝐌𝐚𝐭𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐬: Never give up on your people. Loyalty to your people is the secret sauce to long-term success. 𝐂𝐨𝐚𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐯𝐬. 𝐂𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠: Distinguish between coaching and counseling; group coaching fosters collective growth, while individual counseling addresses personal development. 𝐒𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐌𝐚𝐧𝐚𝐠𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐖𝐢𝐬𝐝𝐨𝐦: Fight stress by spending time with loved ones, engaging in activities you cherish, and playing games that provide stress relief. Saiful A. Khan's insights serve as a guiding light, emphasizing that success is not only measured professionally but also by the positive impact we make on others' lives. Let's carry these lessons forward and strive for excellence in all aspects of our journey. 🙌 𝐀 𝐆𝐫𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐟𝐮𝐥 𝐍𝐨𝐭𝐞: Within a brief yet enriching period, the lessons you've shared are poised to resonate with us for a lifetime. Thank you, Saiful A. Khan, for being not only a wealth of knowledge but also for graciously sharing your valuable time.

Today I wrapped up the last of five sessions with a group of professional hires that was designed to help them incorporate coaching techniques into their day to day relationships. I sent them off with a summary of some of the key items I hope they remember and I thought it might be fun to share - Here you go! Key Takeaways from our Sessions -Coaching works best for Good to Great, not terrible to Good, -When starting a conversation you can lean on this acronym to establish your base - TOMS Topic Outcome Meaning Success -What is your first question after you ask what you want to be coached on today? Mine - Tell me what makes this important to you? -Great questions are what we seek, avoid the obvious -Build context if you need it, tell me more about that, how did that make you feel, what about that surprised you? -Follow the client (to some degree, you need to stay on topic to some extent) and withhold judgment and you cannot project your own experience or get distracted -Listen, really listen, look for body language, tone, facial expressions, where are they looking, shoulders slumping, are they getting emotional - And comment on what you are seeing from a place of empathy. You know you are a good listener when someone tells you about an upcoming vacation to somewhere you have already been and you don't feel the need to tell them about your past trip, just ask them what they are excited for in their upcoming one! -Don't fill space - Let the person answer the question, silence is okay, we are just so not used to it -True back to what the topic for today is, challenge the person you are speaking with to come with a topic in mind, if they give the lame I have nothing to talk about excuse you can use my next line - So you have reached the pinnacle of everything you wish to achieve both personally and professionally? -Open ended questions, How and What are the best options, reframe your Why questions into these types of language choices -If someone asks themselves a question out loud, challenge them to answer it! (Thanks Sarah Happel for this tip) -Make them commit to something, smaller might be better, large leaps are often points of failure and can be discouraging, the culmination of the small steps is the large leap -Land the discussion or session, what are the things you are committing to doing before we meet next time? -Don’t disguise your opinions as questions (Thanks James Clawson for this tip) -All assessments items are great or terrible - They can be good for self reflection, what stands out about this to you?  I rarely deep dive into my own take aways, I want to know what the person receiving the feedback finds interesting, surprising, empowering -Develop a set of go to questions 5 to 10 that you know by heart What coaching is not Consulting Phone a Friend

Once upon a time I used to run. That was years ago before years of playing the wrong sports put paid to that. But I still wear comfortable running socks. The ones that tell you which is the right sock and which is the left….. Why? It sounds weird, I know, but do we need to be told which is which? Does it even matter? I like to think of it differently. Do we need or even like to be told what to do? We are all different and while some do like taking instructions and being micromanaged, so many do not. It all seems to tie in with our need for control. The more you need to be in control, the less you are likely to want to be told what to do. I see it in my 6-year old, I see it in myself, colleagues and clients. And our level of tolerance for this, like so many other characteristics lies along a continuum. So how do you manage people who hate being micromanaged? There needs to be a meeting of minds, communication and the ability to understand each other. And often, if these skills are lacking or you are just not getting there, that is when you bring in a coach. Coaching is not about telling you what to do. The occasional suggestion may come up. Your coach will most likely introduce knowledge, tools, techniques and strategies but in essence the process is about guiding you through questioning (along with tools, theory, practice and good old fashioned homework) to tell your self what to do. The really cool part is that coaching works for people who pay attention to which sock is which and those who don’t care at all! 😉 And I am tagging some amazing people in the coaching world too! #coachingmindset #mindsetcoaching #EQTribe #coachingforresults #insight EQ Consulting & Coaching Services Tamara Al-Halaseh Michelle Shippel Talkwell Communications Collette Merritt-Thrivalist Life Coach Julian de la Hunt Michael Moorhouse Russell Grahame Claire Holden (she/her) Taryn Marcus

#FAQFriday If Coaches don’t give advice then what on earth DO they do??? This is a really common question, often asked a bit less directly 🤣 , but that’s what's REALLY being asked! What I used to think a Coach did: 👂 Listened ✍ Diagnosed 🗒 Told me what to do Partly right…but only the listening bit Actually, I’m trained to have the following SUPERPOWERS, and this is where the magic happens: 🧠 Giving space - fresh thinking and making new meaning from things needs space, my job is to hold that space. This looks like my clients doing most of the talking & thinking and me knowing when to wait and let that happen or to offer a question or reflection. 👩🏫 Facilitating a process - every conversation is different but follows a broad similar structure and has a start (getting clear about what good looks like by the end), a middle (delving deeper, unpicking thoughts, beliefs, assumptions, feelings) and an end (what next)? I gently guide people through this process and give choices when we reach forks in the road so they do the thinking that matters to them most. 👂 Listening differently - like, really listening, so that the person doing the thinking can explore and understand themselves in a new deeper way. What tends to happen in conversations with friends is that we listen and diagnose and offer well intentioned advice, or interrupt with our own similar story - this overshadows the ability to self reflect. 👀 Noticing - when someone is telling me something I am noticing what is happening to their tone of voice, facial expression, body language as these offer clues as to how they are really feeling. Sharing what I am noticing can sometimes be a ‘lightbulb moment’ e.g. letting someone know that their face lights up when they talk about a possible career decision. ❤️ Creating psychological safety - the quality of the relationship between coach client is critical to the success of the coaching. This is where it’s really important to find a coach you click with and feel like you can be safe and open up to. Most coaches offer a discovery / chemistry call for free to allow you to get a feel for this. Using all of these skills you’ll know what to do next, feel more confident to do it AND it will feel more ‘right’ than it would have done if I had told you the answer! I’m sure there’s more, but I’m not going to sweat it on making this the perfect list……. Fellow coaches / those who’ve experienced the magic of coaching - what would you change / add? p.s. I help leaders with career and life design for greater happiness. If you’re curious drop me a DM #FAQFriday #InternationalCoachingFederation #CareerDesign #HappinessAtWork

Oftentimes I find that what comes up at work, comes up at home as well. The professional and personal are artificially separated by role, location, vocation. People come to me for coaching in their work lives and to reach for the highest star. -------------------------------------- Yet, if we don't work together to unpack the "roots" or see ourselves as one person having an experience, we won't go as far. -------------------------------------- Today, I'm sharing a presentation I gave to @C-Sweet in November. The presentation was about Navigating Difficult Conversations. **SPOILER ALERT** WHAT YOU'LL NOTICE -- IT'S ALL ABOUT HOW YOU'LL RESPOND, NOT THEM. Yes, use it for work. Yes, use it at home. Yes, use it when a relative, friend, or partner is challenging. Like when Mom asks, "When are you two going to have a baby?", while passing over the gravy. -------------------------------------- Because we are whole persons, navigating the personal and professional. What benefits in one area of your life is sure to benefit you in others. If you come to me for coaching, think, "Oh, the places you'll go!" (Dr. Seuss). Nothing is off the table when it comes to moving you closer to where you want to be.

Are you a professional person? Do you want to stand out from your colleagues? Is it your time to create change, to move in a different direction? Engaging with a Coach can be the difference you need to achieve all of the above. Somebody who will cheer you on, and hold you accountable to your vision. Today I share with you some helpful tips when selecting your coach. For this and other tips to build and sustain your confidence, visit my website - www.stairway2dreams.com.au Your Smile...😊...Your Responsibility