Stop Self-Sabotaging: How to Identify & Overcome Self-Deception

How to Break Free From the Habits of Self-Deception

Pitfalls of Self Deception How to Identify and How to Break Free From this self-sabotaging habit

In this article, you will learn about the following

19 Serious Harmful Damages of Self-deception

42 Signs To Know If You Are self-deceiving yourself

54 Tips to Break free from the Habit of self-deception

How The Entire Country Is Self-Deceiving Itself – For Reverse Growth In Every Important Aspect Of Human Values

From time to time, each of us engages in some level of self-deception.

Irrespective of how it is used, self-deception is very harmful and dangerous, and self-sabotaging is its worst form, which is living in denial.

Self-deception shapes your reality and influences your choices, beliefs, decisions, actions, and outcomes - both positively and negatively.

At the core of Self-deception – is emotional insecurity which has a direct impact on your - self-esteem, self-pride, self-acceptance, and self-love- Lying affects emotions, leading to negative psychological consequences.

The sinister side of self-deception - People fall into a form of dishonesty to create an impression of living by certain values and principles - by simply going through the motions of appropriating and identifying with them – without committing.

Why we deceive ourselves – it is because of our deep-rooted emotional insecurities – we are scared to face the truth and deal with the pain of the consequences that will follow.

But only when you are able to acknowledge and accept - who you really are – you can use the underlying opportunity to change to create a meaningful and fulfilling life.

The Most Dangerous Kind of Self-Deception is overestimating your own abilities and being completely blind to your major weaknesses and flaws.

Some people spend their entire lives in self-deception or denial.

The situations or circumstances that they are denying - generally get worse with time.

The menacing Truth About Self-Deception- which is happening in India – people are fooling themselves into believing things that are false – and refusing to believe things that are true.

The Fake-news, the Evil propaganda-generating media, the ruling regime, the bureaucrats, and WhatsApp University are to blame for the most lowest form of moral values in India – where hundreds of thousands of people cheer and celebrate - when someone is stabbed, lynched by mob or rapists are paroled.

People are so thoroughly brain-washed through planned, and state-sponsored religious deception and fanatism – that there seems to be no hope of India ever becoming a global leader in - scientific innovations, quality of life, financial stability, a nation where REAL growth in education is happening, happiness, and health index is very high.

Self-Deception can trigger the tendency to take credit for desirable change and blame the undesirable change on others – at times it can take the form of – grandstanding, Whataboutery, or projections.

Self-deception is a cognitive bias triggered by the desire to look and feel great about yourself – when there is nothing to substantiate and that in itself is highly Dangerous.

Self-deception may begin as A little lie for some peace of mind or for the momentary pleasures of believing everything is great and that you are the greatest.

When Self-deception becomes part of your thought patterns and habit of mind – you start avoiding facing the truth – so that you can avoid the anxieties the pains associated with going against your core values – like embarrassment.

Many times, your Self-deception can also convince you of the worst things which may then trigger states of paranoia.

Self-deception can suppress your moral conscience and values – by effectively anesthetizing your guilt.

When you start to justify actions that go against your values and disobey your conscience – you will experience an uncomfortable state called cognitive dissonance.

Many people who have this disorder of Self-deception - surround themselves with people who say yes to everything and flatter them [of course for their own agenda].

Breaking free from very serious self-sabotaging Self-deception cannot happen overnight – as it is a gradual process, which requires patience consistent action, and course correction.

In this article I have given - the signs to identify if you are in Self-deception mode, the pitfalls of Self-deception PLUS how can you use simple practical do-it-yourself tips to break free from the vicious cycle of Self-deception.

42 Signs To Know If You Are self-deceiving yourself

1.     Please use this list only to identify your Self-deception and not to judge others

2.     You keep postponing taking action – about the most important matter – by making excuses

3.     Someone smiles at you – and you that he/she has fallen for you

4.     In your close relationships – you try to change your partner – without realizing your own faults – just blaming your partner or all the ills in the relationship

5.     You start believing that there is a conspiracy in the workplace – because of this – you are not getting promoted and others are

6.     You spend money on credit cards on things that you can’t afford – when you don’t have earning abilities

7.     You are falling into debt-trap – without realizing

8.     You take on all the extra tasks, working late nights and weekends. While she feels proud of your dedication – it leads to burnout and resentment towards colleagues who leave on time.

9.     You notice a toxic work environment developing but you tell yourself – that you don’t have the power to change it

10.                     You agree to unrealistic deadlines or tasks without considering availability, leading to stress, missed expectations, and potential resentment

11.                     You abuse substances – and are addicted to them – BUT – feel that when your current miseries are over you will be able to get out of them

12.                     You are in an abusive relationship – but – you feel that your partner will soon realize his/her fault and the relationship will become rosy

13.                     You are applying and not getting any job – but you feel you are still the best fit – without finding out about and acquiring relevant skills

14.                     You overspend beyond your capabilities just to impress others

15.                     You believe your work is perfect and free from any flaw and thus you don’t accept any criticism

16.                     You downplay your own most important unmet needs – just to please others

17.                     You avoid seeing your flaws clearly and as a direct result you are not growing in your profession, career, etc.

18.                     You may get to use the most unresourceful habits of - binge-watching, overworking, drinking, overeating

19.                     You more often make poor choices, decisions, and judgment

20.                     You are trapped in a vicious cycle of bad habits that keeps harming you in many areas

21.                     You are living the life of someone who is not you – you have lost all mental and emotional clarity about you

22.                     You often feel like a fraud

23.                     You have lost your ability to discern what is right and what is wrong

24.                     You fall for all types of propaganda easily

25.                     You believe in getting rich quick schemes and fall for it

26.                     People can take advantage of you and manipulate you easily

27.                     You believe in things without fact-checking and verifying the data and information

28.                     You also spread fake news lies and gossip

29.                     Your tendency to favor information that confirms your established beliefs 

30.                      Your tendency to overestimate your abilities and your ability to control events

31.                      Your tendency to overestimate favorable outcomes

32.                      Your tendency to underestimate the time, costs, and risks of future actions and to overestimate their benefits

33.                      Your unrealistically favorable attitudes towards ourselves or those close to us

34.                      You have bipolar-type expectations from yourself and others

35.                      You try to justify all your actions, choices, and decisions – even if they were wrong

36.                      You try to change others because you believe that once others change – all your problems will be solved

37.                      You see the other person as the problem - Making the other person out to be worse than they are and you to be better

38.                      You Feel hopeless, powerless, or constantly angry – most of the time

39. Most of the time you focus on how you have been mistreated

40. Nowadays an even more Evil sinister form of the above is when people are talking about how some specific sect treated another sect – without any real evidence

41.                      Compiling evidence and keeping mental notes of all the wrongs you have received, etc.,

42.                      You keep Seeing the same pattern of problems repeat themselves in your life

54 Tips to Break free from the Habit of self-deception

1.     Be objectively honest with yourself - Stop Lying to Yourself - because self-deception can stop you from achieving your personal, professional, business, relationship, and social fulfillment.

2.     Focus on increasing your self-awareness about yourself by actively monitoring your thoughts and behaviors

3.     Acknowledge and accept all the uncomfortable truths about yourself

4.     Seek different diversified external perspectives

5.     Challenge your negative self-talk

6.     Learn and do self-CBT to reframe and change your unresourceful thought patterns

7.     Identify your assumptions and inner biases, excuses, and rationalizations

8.     Understand your lacunae, weaknesses, fears, anxieties, and insecurities well

9.     Also know your strengths, competencies, positive qualities and strong suits

10.                     Understand your thought patterns and your emotional reactions

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