In thinking about the idea of having zero expectations, I agree totally that reciprocal expectations of others can take us down a dark rabbit hole. But I also think it's unreasonable to have zero expectations of others. It is unrealistic, as human interactions often involve some level of expectations. As opposed to having zero expectations I recommend having non-reciprocal expectations, or expectations that don't necessarily require an equal or immediate return, which can help maintain healthier relationships and promote positive interactions. I'm thinking about this from a teamwork perspective. Here are a few non-reciprocal expectations to consider: patience, gratitude, support in crisis, basic respect, acknowledgment of effort, etc. Remember that while you can have these non-reciprocal expectations, they may not always be met by everyone. People have their own limitations, experiences, and perspectives. Maintaining a balance between setting reasonable expectations and practicing understanding and empathy can contribute to more fulfilling and harmonious relationships.
Ultimately it’s about understanding happiness and understanding life. It’s not being held to materialistic things. It’s about not giving a shit about what other people think of you. It’s about being empathetic to what is actually going on. Expectation is the enemy