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The movie adaption of the Colleen Hoover book, It Ends With Us, was released towards the end of last week. The book / movie depicts inter-generational domestic abuse as well as multiple instances of domestic violence between the two main characters. This film adaption is very much in news / lifestyle / female-skewed media. WCS CEO Annabelle Daniel OAM reacts 'I urge media and popular filming-making to stop encouraging people to romanticise those who hurt us. As the recent NSW awareness campaign tagline says, ‘it’s not love, it’s coercive control’. Abuse is not romantic, no matter how nicely packaged it arrives. Domestic abuse and coercive control can rob you of your selfhood, your identity, your social connections and potentially your life. Abusers rarely step away with good grace when a relationship ends or when a survivor sets a boundary – in fact, that’s often when abuse intensifies or escalates. That’s one of the jarring disconnects depicted in the movie, particularly when it comes to children.' #DFV #DFVawareness #NotLoveCoerciveControl #CoerciveControl #DomesticAbuse

53 women 💔 This is unacceptable. My heart burns with profound rage. My heart breaks for the devastation left to families, communities, workplaces in the wake of violence. Why do we continue to allow men to kill women in Australia? It’s in the way we ignore everyday sexism. It’s in the way we blame victims for the decisions men make to use violence against them (look what she was wearing though, she was drinking, she asked for it) It’s in the way our media represent acts of violence against women. It’s in every printed and spoken word that says “but he’s a great student, good leader”. It’s in the way boys and men are shunned for emotion. It’s in the joke about your wife going back to the kitchen. It’s in every implication or facial expression that tells a man if he takes the day off work for caring work, he’s soft, or not committed enough to the job. It’s in the way we set up mentoring programs for women to be bolder in their career, rather than challenging the systems that advance men over women. It’s everywhere. It’s disgusting and we have to stop it. The good thing is, we know what works: gender equality. It’s for everyone and it does prevent violence against women. To those who say ‘not all men’- I know. Not all men choose to commit acts of violence, but all men can and should be responsible for being part of the solution.

This article in The Tyee discusses a woman calling for emergency support regarding gender-based violence. The 911 dispatcher, who had a history of gender-based violence himself, did not treat the call with the criticality it required. The woman was murdered. As a society, we are too permissive about violence. Can policies and validations be put in place to ensure public safety positions are filled safely? Can we build safety, accountability and transparency into our systems? https://lnkd.in/g2SaVt5N

This article in The Tyee discusses a woman calling for emergency support regarding gender-based violence. The 911 dispatcher, who had a history of gender-based violence himself, did not treat the call with the criticality it required. The woman was murdered. As a society, we are too permissive about violence. Can policies and validations be put in place to ensure public safety positions are filled safely? Can we build safety, accountability and transparency into our systems? https://lnkd.in/gcm4j2E6

We need solutions that take the person who chooses to use violence away - we need true ACCOUNTABILITY and a community that does not condone their use of violence. As long as we let perpetrators continue their lives uninterrupted, victim survivors will bear the burden for their safety. Enough is enough. We need real change. We need REAL accountability not words.

I’ve been asked: what can we do to address Domestic Violence? Here’s a quick story: Our neighbor across the road is abusive - law enforcement frequents the house. We’ve certainly had a few breakdance fights with him. The woman’s family takes the kids when it gets “too bad”; sometimes she stays behind and sometimes she goes with her kids. But yesterday there was a shift - there were at least seven big country boy trucks in their driveway. We knew they weren’t his friends because like many things, he can’t maintain friendships. Later we learned, they had an intervention - her family rounded up a posse of volunteer firemen. This is powerful; other men showing up to let abusive men know their shit will no longer be tolerated. Most women are trauma bonded to their abusers and some need more help than others to break that bond in a safe way. Women need access to services, a safety plan, resources and support, especially in rural spaces where isolation allows abuse to thrive. She needs community and this is how it can be done in rural spaces. 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

Solidarity with Cassie Ventura and other survivors of P Diddy. The harrowing video may be traumatising to watch especially as people are posting it on social media and it appears on our feeds without us seeking it. We believe survivors. You don't need to share that video. Here's why... 1) Everyone deserves diginity including victims and survivors of gender-based violence. Their painful moments are not entertainment and do not need to be circulated on social media. 2) If we need to see graphic evidence of abuse to believe it’s real, then we don’t really support survivors and we need to ask why? 3) Not all types of abuse leaves marks and most abuse isn't filmed or shared. 4) Men in positions of power and influence such as celebrities have to be held accountable on and off stage. This case is a stark reminder that in the music industry, men’s reputations are valued far more than the safety of those around them. Full video: https://lnkd.in/e5we553r

Myth or Fact? If domestic abuse was that bad, victims would just leave the relationship. Myth Busted! Leaving an abusive relationship can be extremely difficult due to many reasons including financial dependence, fear of further violence, effects on children and lack of support. Victims we help have often been told by their abuser that they cannot leave, leading to feelings of isolation and helplessness. At Safer, we're committed to shattering misconceptions about domestic abuse. That's why we've launched the 'Safer spaces' partnership program, inviting businesses to be part of a movement that cultivates a safer environment for employees affected by domestic abuse. Ready to make a real difference? Visit Safer.gg/safer-spaces for more details and learn how your business can provide #Saferspaces and positively change lives. #DomesticAbuseAwareness #SupportEachOther #SafeWorkplace #guernsey

🏆⚽️ As the excitement of the weekend's football kicks in, it's crucial to be aware of the hidden impacts it can have off the pitch. Did you know there's a link between football and domestic abuse? Learn how we can help victims end the abuse. Let's work together to support victims and spread awareness. https://lnkd.in/eVe_Wdwp #EndDomesticAbuse #FootballForGood #SupportAndAwareness